_* Dilemma *_
- Monday, July 25, 2005 / 9:05 pm.
Ok, i'm in pretty much a situation now. Here's the thing, for the past 4days, 2 of my housemates - Adele & Rani have been comtemplating the idea of us getting a car. They have gone and seen a car, its a small one, costing bout AUD$2200. They are saying that when we get a car, we split it 4 ways between all the housemates, its everything that is split, which means the car insurance as well as petrol and whatever maintence that is needed.
Thing is, only Adele & Rani has the license to drive, me & Hui don't. Adele said she doesn't mind driving us ard, but i've come to the thought that when she's unable to, we have to still fork out our own cash to spend on public transport. So, to me & Hui will it be fair? Plus we split petrol and insurance 4 ways, and only Rani & Adele can drive, thus when we go out using the car for their own stuff, it is still fair?
Spoke to mom just now and she pointed all these points out to me. Got the feeling that she isn't supportive of us sharing the car. Think she wld rather i not be a part. Told mom that Adele had said that if they won't approve of me paying for the car, Adele said she doesn't mind paying my portion first, but the remainder like petrol & insurance will be taken into the monthly house expenses and when the car is sold off at the end of the yr, if there's a lost, the part will be split equally and i would need to pay for it too. Mom hasn't really spoken to Dad bout it, but from the way she told me, i doubt the possibility is high, and she's spoken to aunt Nancy bout it too, whom disapproves. I can't go behind my mom's back bout it, she will know eventually, as Uncle David Foote (aka my australian godfather) is here in bris. I know she's also afraid that it won't be safe.
Haiz.. i'm really in a spot now. I'm kinda afraid that eventually if i put my foot down and said no, i would be treated very much differently. Its a fear that no one can help solve. But if i manage to get my parents to agree to it, its being afraid that when worked out, i'm at a losing end. Although i think Hui is in a more losing position than me cuz she studies in a different uni, but at this point of time, i'm thinking more for myself rather than others.
Adele said that Hui has spoken to her aunt and is on the agreeable side. Hui herself had said that she doesn't mind and stuff. I have been thinking if i shd go talk to Hui alone, but then, on the other hand, if i do so, can i trust her enough not to tell Adele or Rani on my personal thoughts & feelings? Moreover, Adele does know her aunt.
HOW HOW HOW? Can someone tell me what i shd do? Share a part of the car or risk being casted out of the house and being treated with dislike cuz i didn't wan to get the car. I'm really in a dilemma now, feeling like i'm balancing on a thin fence. Head spinning from thinking too much of it. Seriously need my friends now... I need their advice.. Feeling so alone...